Helping Sports Kids Avoid Burnout

The Importance of Balance in an Athlete’s Life

Hernan Chousa is a former tennis pro and sports dad to a tennis player who is now playing at a Division 1 college.

His son started playing early, and burnt out at age 15. He quit tennis for two years, then started over because he wanted to win a scholarship to play in college. And that’s just what he did.

But too often, kids burn out and never go back, says Chousa. To help avoid burnout, parents can help their kids lead a well-rounded life, rather than focusing solely on sports.

When kids burn out–or long before they do– it’s important for parents to be good role models, and show that they lead balanced lives, says Chousa.

“The best thing we can do is be the best people, take care of ourselves, work on improving ourselves and having hobbies. If we focus on the kid’s sports, it’s too much pressure,” he says.

Sports is just one activity in the life of kids, and it needs to be balanced with other activities and interests.

Parents should point out to sports kids that athletics teach them important life skills, including time management, how to balance sports and school, how to deal with pressure and how to be part of a team.

“They have to see that side of the coin,” says Chousa.

For parents of kids who have high ambitions in sports and start to participate in high-level sports, Chousa suggests couples therapy. He has seen too many parents get divorced when their children don’t meet their sports expectations. Again, he stresses that parents, like their kids, need to seek balance.

“If you think your kid will make it in professional sports, you and your spouse need to go to a therapist or sports psychologist,” he says. “We need to deal with our business, our family, all the other tasks besides sports.”

Parents who fail to find balance and focus too much on sports hurt their kids, says Chousa.

When he was 15, he told his dad to stop coming to his matches.

“He was tough, all my life he was tough. When I came out of a match, he always saw the dark side, the mistakes. Once I beat the number one player in the world (under 18) and he saw the bad side,” Chousa recalls.

Meanwhile, he told his mother to attend his matches, but to refrain from talking.

“It’s good to focus on the good. For every negative comment, share five positive ones,” Chousa advises, sharing a strategy suggested by the Positive Coaching Alliance.

You can listen to the entire interview with Chousa below:

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