How to Communicate with Your Child
Summary: Parents communicate with their kids through words, tone, body language, and expressions. Communicating positively helps children enjoy sports and feel supported. Kids may have both good and bad experiences in sports, so parents need to respond thoughtfully.isten attentively, avoid lecturing, and focus on your child’s effort rather than mistakes. Criticism can make kids defensive, so balance feedback with praise.
Parents communicate in many ways with their kids through conversation, tone of voice, body language and facial expressions. Sports can be an exciting topic to discuss with your young athletes. It’s important to be as supportive, empathic and positive as possible when you’re discussing sports with your children.
Kids’ experiences in sports can be positive. They may love learning new skills. But their experiences can also be negative. They may sometimes feel like failures, for example. To ensure your children feel positive about sports, follow these guidelines:
- Listen attentively. Nod your head, make eye contact and ask questions related to what your children have been saying. This shows you are interested.
- Avoid lecturing. Parents may overload their athletes with too much information or additional coaching. Let children voice their opinions.
- Avoid dwelling on mistakes. Mistakes are part of the game. Kids may be afraid of making mistakes in sports if parents dwell on them.
- Avoid criticism. Kids may start to tune parents out, feel defensive or not want to play sports anymore. Parents can offer lots of praise along with instruction.
- Keep your emotions in check. Sports is an arena where emotions can get out of hand. If you feel angry or disappointed, step away from the situation, take a deep breath and think about what you wan to say before speaking in the heat of the moment.
- Try to understand your children’s feelings. Kids want support from their parents. Parents can be supportive by validating their kids’ feelings.
Post-Game Tips For Communicating with your Kids
Kids may have a difficult time dealing with losses. They may feel disappointed, frustrated or even question their abilities. Parents want to approach their kids in a way that encourages communication.
1.Give Kids Space After Losses
Read your children’s body language to determine if they’re open to talking to you. Sport losses are hard and some kids do not want to talk right away. Give them some space. If your kids want to talk to you about their experience, they will. Parents need to be patient, rather than forcing their kids to talk.
2.Show Empathy and Understanding
Show empathy. Parents could say, “I know you tried really hard today and you must be upset.” Parents can also share a story about when they played sports and how they coped with losses.
3.Focus on Effort and Positives
Talk about what your kids did well. Kids don’t want to hear about every single mistake they made during the game, especially if they lost. Talk to your kids about their effort, sportsmanship, or anything that can help build their confidence. Your kids cannot get enough praise. If you want to talk to them about ways to improve, wait a day.
Be sure to share in your athletes’ excitement after games. Let your kids talk about the game and just listen. Be sure to praise them for what they did well.
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FAQ: Communicating with Young Athletes About Sports
Q: How can I communicate effectively with my child about sports?
A: Use clear and positive communication. Pay attention to your tone, body language, and facial expressions. Listen attentively and ask questions to show you are interested in their experience.
Q: Should I correct every mistake my child makes in sports?
A: No. Avoid dwelling on mistakes. Focus on your child’s effort, sportsmanship, and achievements. Offer praise before giving instruction or suggestions for improvement.
Q: How should I handle my emotions when talking about sports?
A: Keep your emotions in check. If you feel angry or frustrated, step away, take a deep breath, and think before speaking. Communicating calmly helps your child stay positive and engaged.
Q: What should I do if my child is upset after a loss?
A: Give them space and observe their body language. Let your child decide when they want to talk. Patience helps them process emotions without feeling pressured.
Q: How can I show empathy to my child after a tough game?
A: Acknowledge their feelings and validate their effort. You can say, “I know you tried really hard today and you must be upset.” Sharing your own sports experiences can help them cope.
Q: How can I keep my child motivated and confident in sports?
A: Focus on positives, celebrate achievements, and share in their excitement. Listen to their reflections, praise their efforts, and avoid excessive criticism. This helps build confidence and enjoyment.
Parent Tips for Communicating with Your Athletes
Kids Sports Psychology expert Patrick Cohn, Ph.D. has helped athletes for over 35 years to enhance their performance. Dr. Cohn earned a master’s degree in sports psychology from CSUF and a Ph.D. from the University of Virginia, specializing in Applied Sports Psychology. Today, he is the president and founder of Peak Performance Sports, LLC in Orlando, Florida.